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May 2009 
What pattern has characterized your life recently?
Posted on Jun 28th, 2008
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isa
isa
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for June 28, 2008:
Since January 2007, a year and a half ago if you will, my mom (59) has been through some tough moments: the death of her own mom, the death of her aunt who was like a mom too, the death of a nephew (34) who was more like a son to her, the death of the 5 year old son of her godson/nephew, having my sister in a detox facility for two months and... as if it wasn't horrible already, one of her best friends passed away yesterday.
The only good thing is that even though she's far away in another country, she is a first time grandma to my son Ian (3 month old) who happens to be the first child in more than 5 pregnancies that I had... For than we are grateful.
If you can think of something ultra nice that I can do to make my mom happy, let me know. My goal is to have her live in the US with us, it's a possibility because I can have her papers ready in no time but it's hard for her to say goodbye to a city after 50 something years.
The only good thing is that even though she's far away in another country, she is a first time grandma to my son Ian (3 month old) who happens to be the first child in more than 5 pregnancies that I had... For than we are grateful.
If you can think of something ultra nice that I can do to make my mom happy, let me know. My goal is to have her live in the US with us, it's a possibility because I can have her papers ready in no time but it's hard for her to say goodbye to a city after 50 something years.
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Your radiant smile brought me to your profile, which took me to your blog. What sadness your mother has gone through in such a short time…but the beauty of your sweet little Ian is a saving grace for you all!
What an adorable child!
I wish I could think of something to help your mum, but the only thing I could think of was a video of your days and your life here in the US…so she can see the love awaiting here in this new place.
Sometimes, we all need to say goodbye to the old and embrace the new…it is harder the older we get…but not impossible.
blessings dear one…you are a beautiful soul.
blessings,
Aley
Let me think…. I am 50 and a mother of 4 and by this age also have experienced many deaths in friends and family….what makes me happy is what I am thinking to myself….. and it is EXACTLY what you already realize: celebrating the cycle of birth and friendship and love and death that connects us all.
So you have already done the best thing: the gift of your son
Something else simple, though hard to find time with a new born: solicit contacts to send you photos of the many people your mom has loved and lost. Pix of things she did with them long ago or that illustrate something special about that person. And gradually put together an album celebrating all those wonderful people and love and connection which never really does go away.